Boo!! (Happy Halloween)

From UrbanDictionary.com... The word of the day today is:Boo1. Boyfriend or girlfriend2. Word used to scare people 1. Can you handle me? If you can't you ain't gonna be my boo. 2. Guy: BOO! Guy 2: Holy sh*t!And sometimes, it serves both purposes at the same time. ;)Happy Halloween, loved one...

Radical Acceptance of What Is

Ok, so in my last (very) recent post I mentioned a concept called Radical Acceptance, and I feel the need to expound upon this a little more. People sometimes wonder why I'm so calm about things and mistake it for not caring, or a "fuckit" mentality (which is an entirely different, more nefarious state of mind). No, it's not that, its just that I accept things for what they are, change what I can, and fuck deal with the rest.I have been through A LOT over the past year and a half..... much more than the average person can process and handle. So instead of trying to fight and control and worry...

Emotional Baggage..... Fridays??

It's Halloween, which is my favorite holiday of the year, and I have much tomfoolery planned for later, but I just had to woo-sah this out real quick and get it out the way so I can go on with the mayhem of the day.......There are people who come into your life for a limited time and a limited purpose, and once that purpose is served it's time to go. Can't hold on to it or it turns nasty and ugly and negative....("I know if I pick up this phone, write this letter send this two way........I know I'm gonna say some things, I know you gonna say some things.......That we both don't mean to say.......")Just...

"As the parties may agree....."

"...as the parties may agree." ~ Page 6, Line 4 of my divorce settlement agreement.This one little phrase is both a blessing and a curse when it comes to divorce decrees, particularly as it relates to child custody and support arrangements. First, I must say that negotiating a divorce settlement agreement is one of the most stressful, frustrating, and emotionally draining endeavors in life. There's a lot of quibbling just for the sake of quibbling, a lot of leveraging, many threats (both real and totally bogus) and it just wears you out. Even if you feel like you are competent and intelligent,...

Playboys vs. Playstations

I've previously mentioned the Dating Persona Test at OKCupid.com (and that I think is one of the BEST personality tests out there on the web). There's a link on the right.... go take it if you haven't. I guarantee enlightenment.As I explained before, my "dating persona" is The Playstation. In case you forgot (or didn't read.... shame on you) here's the description again:The PlaystationRandom Gentle Sex Master (RGSM)Easy to turn on. Hard to beat. You are The Playstation.You're a nice girl, and you have lots of sex. It's therefore highly likely that you're attractive, and you're certainly outgoing...

Incognegress

I realize that I've been rather incognegro out here on the blogosphere lately.... in addition to actually having to go to a physical job location outside of my apartment everyday where I don't have regular access to a computer, I've also just had a lot of my mind lately, which tends to clog the pathway between my brain and my fingertips.So I think to get caught up, I'm just going to do one of my old school "lists" (with a lil extra):The minor emotional skirmish of last week with New Boo has been resolved satisfactorily. It was just a result of...

After these messages......

I've been a little incognegro lately on the blogs. I've just had WAY too much emotional and mental hullabaloo going on lately to process. When things get to be too much I just avoid speaking on it for awhile. I have a lot of sorting and decisions and mental repositioning of situations and people to do right now.I'll be back soon, loved ones......

Brady Bunch Dating

Thursday morning on the Russ Parr Morning Show there was a discussion about women who refuse to date men with kids. These women stated that having kids would be a deal breaker and that they consciously kept these individuals out of their dating pool. Surprisingly, many of the callers who commented on the topic had children themselves. The reason I heard over and over was the women's desire to avoid "baby momma drama" and not have to deal with the mother of their man's children. But generally, it was just to avoid the extra issues that come along with having kids.I personally think this is...