tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4788230044393048312.post2574932180725804905..comments2022-07-11T07:55:25.738-04:00Comments on Adventures in Divorce: Mental relapseThe Unheeded Prophetesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01685273919513889211noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4788230044393048312.post-49976453051621962932008-08-11T13:20:00.000-04:002008-08-11T13:20:00.000-04:00Hmmm.. I honestly think that "The Ex" se...Hmmm.. I honestly think that "The Ex" sets you back. I think that maybe you should set boundries for how often and what you talk about with him. It just seems like he needs to be put in his place. If he doesnt have anything postive to say to keep it to himself. <br><br>I will say it again it seems as though he is jealous of you and who you are and therefore attacks you at levels in which he knows you are insecure. And he only does this because he is insecure himself. He thought that you having two kids would keep you from achieving your goals but hahah it didnt. I wouldnt let him keep you in a chokehold now that you have eliminated him out of yours life. The new chokehold is challenging you as a mother. I would honestly just sit down with your kids and figure out what they want out of this.. I am sure they do not want to live with him permanently. If he abuses you verbally in this fashion I am sure although he is probably a very good father unconsciously does the same to him..<br><br>I encourage you to keep the faith.. and remember that happiness is a consequence of personal effort and something we have to fight for to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of our own blessings. HOLD ON.. if it looks bad now .. it just means your blessings are right around the corner.. <br><br>I'll keep you in my prayers.. <br><br>I like your blog. Getting it all out helpsjolie fatalewww.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4788230044393048312.post-79574950810353848182008-08-14T21:11:00.000-04:002008-08-14T21:11:00.000-04:00Damn! All I can say is that sense the pain and des...Damn! All I can say is that sense the pain and desperation in your post. I'm sorry that you were feeling this way.<br><br>The only advice that I can offer you is to consider your source. I agree with the first comment - it seems as if your ex knows which buttons to push when it comes to you. Until the information he gave you about your son comes from your son, don't consider it fact. Talk to your son. Find out for yourself how he feels and proceed from there. Additionally, I have an 11 year old and I'm only 2 years older than you. I know, from experience, that I can do nothing right, but it doesn't mean that my son doesn't love me. As such, it doesn't mean that yours doesn't love you. He's a teenage boy! He was going to be this way whether you are a 30, 40 or 50 year old divorcee. Divorce is difficult on a child, especially one who is old enough to understand what is going on. So, please, don't base your decision to send your children to live with their father off of something that is likely normative behavior, considering your situation. Your son is dealing with a lot of changes: mom and dad aren't together, dad is remarrying, two separate households... Don't let the big bad ex convince you that it's all you - IT ISN'T!!<br><br>Keep your head up sistah!Anonymouswww.blendingin.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com